One other thing I remember from this age is that while they boys feel all grown up and manly, they still need their mommy. Explain to him that dating is for picking the person that he is going to ultimately marry and that at 11 he is no where near ready for that and that he needs to chill out and be friends with girls and boys and learn to make those kinds of relationships first.Get him involved in sports and church and other activities that are healthier and where he can interact with members of both sexes without the weird pressure of going out. That won't be the last time you hear that one you have to learn to nip that one in the bud.Hi C., He sounds pretty grown up for an 11 year old boy.Even though he likes girls he is not allowed to touch anywhere inappropriate at that age.
I know you are just asking a question about dating, but at the age of 11 its a good time for parents, especially dad to encourage their boys to spend the time preparing for one of the most exciting times of life..in my opinion that's not by dating, even though the interest may be there...letting your son know that this is a really special part of life and that girls his age may be trying to get his attention, (or he may start to be distracted by them) If he takes this time of life to begin developing his own character, one day the best will come.I don't wanna be overprotective, but I also in NO means want to seem as though I am encouraging sexual activity.....Anyone out there already been or currently going through this??Tell him that all the really smart beautiful girls are going to be in college and he does not want to be already tied down to somebody since he was 11 when he gets there.They need you to help them make long term goals and you need to help him aim higher than just hooking up with girls. They can only get somewhere if a parent takes them! My son who just turned 12 said he had 3 "girlfriends" last year. Cool" and I never heard a girl call the house for him or heard him call a girl. I personally am not going to let my son go on a "date" until he's going to high school.There is absolutely no need for alone time or unsupervised communication at this age!!!One suggestion is that you have your husband have a man-to-man talk with him about getting ready to be a good husband by learning how to treat a girl.If his friends are doing that then he may need to find a wider more diverse group to hang with. I have a friend who has 2 daughters that are just about my sons ages. He can meet a group of frineds at the movies that include girls, but not a one on one thing.She would tell me since they were in 6th grade that someone was "going out" with someone. Call it overprotective, but I remember having a friend who got pregnant at 14.I was so naive that I couldn't imagine doing anything like that. Truthfully, I doubt if "everyone" is going out with someone.Needless to say, my mom decided I wasn't going to be friends with this girl any longer. Kids your sons age think that one to three people means "everyone".