I meet people and then I am in a relationship with them. This is a common problem amongst us ADHDers and the next 5 mistakes will help explain why.If there is one thing that characterized every relationship I have ever been it, it is this.As a woman with ADD, she knows how difficult it is to focus, pay attention and have a relationship. Keep in mind, ADD men and women are introverts and extroverts.So this will factor what the person likes and doesn't like.Unfortunately, this often means we go so fast that we end up making Mistake #2.When we are newly in love, us ADHDers can be amazing at looking past someone’s flaws, well, that isn’t exactly true, it’s more like we don’t notice them at all.One of the most transformative things about my diagnosis was getting to re-write this part of my story. It was the reason I was willing to rationalize away almost every kind of bad behavior….after all, I was no picnic myself.
If the woman you are dating is an introvert, she may get all excited about plans to go out and then break down and refuse to leave the house. Numerous women with ADD have their own pile of clothes, from the endless crusade of getting dressed. If you can't handle the mess, the ability to lose anything, and the lack of organization, it is best to move on. It would make for a miserable relationship that will end badly in the future. If outdoor/indoor events like concerts, festivals, fairs, or carnival type events are more her thing, then find fun things to do.ADHDers fall fast and they fall hard which unfortunately means they don’t often fall for the actual person they are dating.This doesn’t always mean jumping in the sack too soon, but often times that is part of these kinds of light speed relationships.If you are or considering dating a woman with ADD (ADHD), these 6 things are important for you to understand. In the past, I've been contacted by ADD women that were having a hard time because their man just didn't understand them.Their man had a hard time dealing with them and often times said hurtful things out of anger and frustration.Knowing these 6 things ahead of time should help in your decision of dating a woman with ADD (ADHD).Sam Farmer shares about herself and the things men need to know about women with ADD.I read every self-help book there was about women who pick the wrong men. If there was a tactic, I tried it, a set of rules, I followed them, but the end result, with limited exceptions, was almost always the same.I would spend a year or two supporting an emotionally unavailable jackass who did nothing but make me feel bad about myself.I used to think I was just color-blind when it came to red-flags because I never saw them until it was too late for them to be useful.I blame all that dopamine and oxytocin racing around in our brains and making us feel so good that anything bad just doesn’t exist.