Sure, we may be willing participants, but part of that is because sex. So rather than get attached to you as a person, we generally just chalk it up to a ‘future booty call.’ Harsh, but true. For instance, “I don’t sleep with anyone until we’ve dated for at least a month.” Believe it or not, this is a BIG RELIEF for guys because it whisks that 800-lb “sex” gorilla out of the room and he can focus on just getting to know you without the added pressure. Also, as a reminder, you should never go somewhere private with someone you don’t trust and without friends knowing where you’re going and how to reach you.
Now, if you make us wait, as crude as that sounds, we’re more likely to take things more seriously and make notes about you that don’t include the words “booty” and/or “call”.
With more time to perfect their technique (and less sheer relief at the fact that they’re getting laid at all), these men know where to touch, and for how long.
Girls age at a rate much faster than their male counterparts.
These guys know how to behave in a relationship because they’ve done it before with a variety of women, learning all the ups and downs through a variety of dating obstacles.
You’re young and beautiful, and he’s technically out of your league.
Do they lose respect for a woman if she has sex on the first date?
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Also, if you go out with someone and they ask you if you would like to come inside, does it automatically mean that they want to have sex? If he wasn’t all that interested in you to begin with, but was just looking to get laid, saying that he lost respect for you is an easy way to get out of seeing you again. If a man finds something desirable, he’s going to be happiest if he gets it ASAP. If a guy says he lost respect for a woman because she slept with him on the first date, he really had little respect for her in the first place and probably was simply dating her to see if he could sleep with her.
If so, how do I make it clear that I wouldn’t want to have sex and want to just hang out? Either way, a guy just looking for sex can easily hedge his bets: If you have sex with him right away, he “loses respect for you”; if you don’t have sex with him right away, you’re just a “tease.” The point is, if a guy really likes you, he’ll be excited that you actually want to have sex with him, even on the first date. If a man asks you to go to somewhere private with him, yes, often, they would be interested in having sex with you.