So I think for most people, this is part and parcel of life.At the same time, it’s often moments like those that make you question things. Readers and viewers seem to love the North Carolina settings. Because I think it harkens back to feelings of nostalgia or longing for a slower pace. They’ll pop over to set now and then when we’re filming, and they’ll certainly go to the premiere, and that’s a lot of fun. When you go on dates, how high is the bar for them to be really romantic just because of who you are and what you write? So many people are so incredibly busy these days, and if you work and you have children and you have a partner, a husband, parents, siblings, pets, neighbors, you are running from the moment you wake til the moment you go to sleep. But my daughter, she says the same thing as some of my readers: “You have ruined men for me forever, because they’re just not romantic like this, Dad.” My daughter says this to me! To me, that’s a wonderful compliment of sorts, because it meant that they were able to escape into the story and forget that I had written it.
And there’s room for those kinds of stories in the market, but it’s not what I do. My daughters—not my sons—have read everything, and my sons have seen the movies, but they haven’t read anything. For writing process, let’s say What about your favorite book by another author? Is it more I know part of it is the character learning how to date again.
‘Someone like my grandmother did what was expected of her — she got married, had babies (eight of them) and raised the family.
She wouldn’t have been able to move into the workplace after a divorce; she had a very basic education and no opportunities. Women come to the marriage table able to make decisions about their future and having the skills to keep them competitive in the workplace.’Barbara agrees with Baroness Deech, who has tabled a Bill in the House of Lords to limit maintenance payments for ex-partners to three years after a divorce.
And last June, millionaire entrepreneur Dale Vince had to give his ex-wife a lump sum of £300,000 even though he started his business a decade after they split up in 1992, when both were penniless peace protesters.
Barbara says it’s incredibly difficult to get women primary earners to pay their lower-earning husbands maintenance.