‘Someone like my grandmother did what was expected of her — she got married, had babies (eight of them) and raised the family.
She wouldn’t have been able to move into the workplace after a divorce; she had a very basic education and no opportunities. Women come to the marriage table able to make decisions about their future and having the skills to keep them competitive in the workplace.’Barbara agrees with Baroness Deech, who has tabled a Bill in the House of Lords to limit maintenance payments for ex-partners to three years after a divorce.
He’d wanted to cut the payments as their son was 23 and he felt his ex-wife should be independent.
‘I feel like I’m paying for her mismanagement of her finances.‘I don’t think it’s a good message to send to men or women,’ he said after the case.
It passed its second reading in February and is in the committee stage.
Baroness Deech argues that British judges are being old-fashioned and over-chivalrous in awarding women payments for 15 or 20 years when they are perfectly capable of earning their own money.‘People wonder why, 15 years after a marriage has ended, one person has to keep paying money to another,’ she said, arguing that these kinds of settlements undermined women’s equality rather than did them a favour.
She feels there’s so much support for women getting a divorce — from retreats to online clubs — that now it’s men’s turn to get specialist help.
But his ex-wife argued she’d run up debts over the years as a single mother with a history of bad health, which had prevented her from working at times.
She knows her views won’t be popular with many, but Johnson-Stern feels women — and it’s women who instigate 65 per cent of divorces — often have a sense of entitlement.
My second son Ryan was diagnosed as severely autistic.
I can’t tell you how many doctors we saw trying to figure out this diagnosis—it was very challenging.