Hey Doc, I am a recent college graduate who is struggling to make new friends, and was hoping to hear your thoughts on this issue.
I currently have a small but solid group of friends left over from college, who I would describe as eccentric nerds and would-be intellectuals, as well as a SO.
2 View All Next »This is the week that I decide to alienate more than half of my audience. However, geeks, like all other creatures, crave love, acceptance, intimacy and companionship.
It’s notoriously difficult to pull a geek outside of his comfort zone; the world hates and fears him, therefore why should he have anything to do with the world outside of the tiny slice that values him.
Because nerds and geeks are frequently ostracized, you end up with a culture that insists that “ostraciziation is Yet, at the same time, because of this very same culture is one of the most insular you might find; non-geeks are derisively referred to as “mundanes”; anyone criticizing a geek is “just like those jocks/cheerleaders/bitchy girls that made high-school hell for everyone”.
Geeks foster and maintain the idea that nerds as a collective whole are better, more moral, more open minded and more socially accepting people.She’s the one toting around the Naruto-branded messenger bag with a copies of Watchmen, Blankets and Grant Morrison’s run on New X-Men sticking out the top.She’s waiting in line for the midnight release for Halo 4 and Kingdom Hearts Posterior Aphasia. OK, I can already hear the fingers clicking as you write me pissed off e-mails and click the “back” button on your browser, but stick with me here, I swear I’m going somewhere with this and it’s not where you think.At the same time however, they fear the rejection from the opposite sex.Who needs a romantic dinner or a hike down to a beautiful lake when you can bond over taking out Hunters and Boomers in Left 4 Dead 2?Bonding is so much easier when you can just talk about video games and comic books instead of having to sweat out finding what you have in common!One of the most common stereotypes of the modern geek is someone whose social skills are next to non-existant; they can’t maintain a conversation about topics that aren’t science fiction, space opera, urban fantasy, video games, computers or comic books.Unfortunately, there is a lot of truth to this idea.But, […] Hey Doc, first off I’m a big fan of your site and really appreciate all the healthy dating advice you give.I’m a 26 year old straight male and I’ve basically had intense shame about my sexuality for my entire adult life.