Tamsen Fadal and Matt Titus, our favorite New York City dating and relationship experts, answer your questions about how to find someone special in New York City, dating unavailable men, getting back into the NYC dating pool after a hiatus, and rude date behavior.Single Guy in Soho writes: I am a 24-year-old straight male who has been living in New York for almost 4 years.I have been trying to meet a girl the entire time, but the hot ones all seem to have boyfriends.Honestly, I'm so frustrated that I am most likely going to move out of the New York area to California because of this issue.If he'll blow you off for a call on a first date, you don't want to know what will happen when he stops trying to impress you.Read more New York City dating advice from Matt and Tamsen or visit their site.Or because you really want that summer share in the Hamptons. Maybe you’re a traditionalist and you still believe you can meet someone in Central Park... This can be why most New Yorkers don’t want to commit, because they know that there will always be someone else, theoretically better, right around the corner.Or someone to call "babe" every Sunday morning at brunch at The Smith. Like, literally, around the corner you can see right now.
If he is open, kind and secure, then maybe he is someone that is worth your time. There are so many damn people you would think it’d be easier, but it’s not. What makes New York equally amazing and horrible for dating is the sheer number of options. Some people are dating purely for the stories, whether they know it or not. In New York, Tinder is so accepted as a means of meeting that elusive attractive individual who lives three blocks from you and ALSO loves hamentashen, you might not even lie to your grandparents about it. There’s a ton of awesome stuff to do in the city, and since you probably have an awesome and more chill time doing it with your established friends, you’re not likely to risk doing anything "fun" on your list with a potentially lame stranger. If the date goes badly, inevitably you end up doing something super awkward like saying goodbye and then walking to the train in the same direction and slowly trying to fall back.By approaching potential love interests, you are making a statement.What makes someone interesting and unique is their behavior, not necessarily their looks.Being open and secure enough to walk up to a stranger and try to make a relationship happen out of thin air puts you in a select group that is incredibly rare.The reaction of your potential love interest should actually be inconsequential.What's the best way to start slow and approach my crush?Tamsen and Matt say: You need to have the right mentality when you are going to be proactive and take matters of the heart into your own hands in order to make love happen.We design an effective personalized program that caters to you.We focus together to develop a dating strategy based on your personality, your lifestyle, your needs and your goals.