Even at this entry-level porn use, he was already caught in the web of a chemical-like dependency called the “crack cocaine of sexual addiction.” Pornography or cybersex addiction can progress much more rapidly than any other chemical or behavioral addiction–the individual can become addicted in only a matter of weeks or months.
The internet has an extraordinary capacity to introduce a trance-like state.
The porn addict tells himself that he deserves a break.
The only relief he gets is from the addiction itself—which then leaves him feeling guilty and filled with self-loathing.
Yet this cycle repeats itself, often escalating as the user compulsively seeks increasingly deviant websites, or even tries to live out some of his sexual fantasies.
Hours may pass while the individual is completely preoccupied with chatting online or gazing at pornographic images on the computer screen.
This trance-like state is the first key element in the addiction cycle, which intensifies with each repetition.
They experience a fundamental lack of self-worth and a mistrust of others that come from early childhood experiences (whether through some traumatic incident or through impaired early attachment experiences) and are reinforced by our culture.
The four dysfunctional core beliefs are: Sex is my most important need Viewing pornography is accompanied by self-gratification and triggers arousal, satiation and an increase in fantasy, which induce powerful neurochemical responses in the brain similar to those induced by addictive drugs and alcohol.