Speaking of “Rules,” this guy has “commandments” all his own, including: “make her jealous…flirt with other women in front of her” and “give your woman 2/3 of everything she gives you.” Vile and amoral, yet at least he is honest about his agenda – and in so doing makes a case more explicit and eloquent than any I could ever make on WHY WOMEN NEED THE RULES.
In a recent blog, “Anti-Player Counterinsurgency: Game for Women,” Roissy in DC attacked my Huffington Post articles, purporting to tell his followers which tactics they could use to essentially neutralize .
While it may have been true for young boys, still developing emotionally and sexually, a grown man who tries to put you off balance with verbal sparring on the first few dates doesn’t really care that much about you – or is playing games, which, in my book, amount to the same thing.
Again, the players’ guru, Roissy, explicitly encourages men to ask a date questions “designed to put her on the defensive,” such as “Are you a good kisser? ” I’ve detailed your options for dealing with such questions elsewhere, but suffice it to say here that a man who really likes you will NOT risk offending you, and thus spoiling his chances of sleeping with you, by playing such games.
Let go of the fantasy relationships to open yourself up to a real one. I recently came across a heinous example of this sort of misogynistic claptrap in a blog by a self-styled pick-up artist guru – Roissy in DC – claiming: “The men women want most” are “cads and ***holes.” That may be true for a minority, but women with high self-esteem find adoring, persistent and respectful attention an incredible turn-on.
Such women instinctively avoid wasting time on men who cultivate “low expectations,” as Roissy recommends.
” Remember what Sherrie and Ellen say in Rule #30: “Rules girls don’t get hung up on men who reject them…They carry on…They don’t write men letters offering to change to make things work out…They accept it’s over and get on with it.
They don’t waste time.” Thus, necessarily neutralize any curveball a player tries to throw your way. Then let me take you through each of Roissy in DC’s “anti-player solutions” to demonstrate how truly powerless they are against the woman who consistently and conscientiously does .
Before you have a heart attack, let me emphasize that it IS what’s on the inside – your essence, your spirit, your intellect – that a man falls in love with, and that is all important when it comes to building a relationship and sustaining it over the long run, especially during hard times.
5) It doesn’t matter what night he wants to see you — Thursday, Friday, Monday, Wednesday, Saturday, whatever – only THAT he wants to see you.
You may want to believe it’s not important whether he asks you for Saturday or not – but he knows the importance, believe me. “None of the guys go steady, ‘cuz it wouldn’t be right to leave your best girl home on a Saturday night.” On the other end of the spectrum, Roissy tells men to “train women to have low expectations for seeing you on prime [EXPLETIVE] hunting nights.” If he’s not seeing you on Saturday, he’s seeing someone else – or looking for someone he WOULD want to see on Saturdays, and every other day, in perpetuity.
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Next week I’ll fill you in on the next five lies women tell themselves in dating, so you can break out of self-destructive delusions to realize your highest romantic goals.