Dating became a distraction from my daily life, an escape from my full plate of responsibilities. He didn’t have kids and didn’t understand the sinking devastation I felt. “It’s nice to have someone who will have sex with you and not be a jerk, yet not have any expectations or all the emotional stuff.” He had a point.
Even with my friends’ willingness to help out with child care, every night out was a scramble to set up who could watch my kids and when I had to be home by their bedtime. My older daughter was away for a few days after Christmas, and he asked me to go out of town with him. I needed so desperately to get a break from my day-to-day life of working at home. “I gave him an out,” I said to my friend a couple of days later while wallowing through the sixth season of “Parenthood.” “Why did you give him an out? I wanted to escape for an hour or two in between some flirty distractions without worrying about whether he’ll be a supportive, healthy, future partner. I had two very real kids at home who came first, took up most of my time and energy, and I didn’t have much to give.
This may seem obvious on nights when she has her kids – but it’s something to keep in mind during her free time too. Flexibility is key – even on date night Started dating a single parent?
My future husband walked into a party I was at with a bunch of friends from work, leaned against the door wearing a checkered flannel shirt, and said, “Hi, I’m Frank.” Then I didn’t see him for the rest of the night.
Well, not until I was about to leave, and he decided to join me on the dance floor.
They smell good, and I like it when someone I’m attracted to puts their hand on my knee while we’re in the car. Right now, I like being alone with my three kids and putting on my pajamas at 4 PM if I choose.
Right now, I need to find my happily ever after with myself before I can invest in another person.