And then I want to escape to a remote, Internet-free island IRL.Seeing your ex with someone new is always going to be weird, no matter how shark-infested your island waters, or how long you’ve left them stranded.Boundaries are important, and you can’t let your past ruin your present relationships.You decide that it’s time to flirt with EVERYONE Sometimes, when you find out your ex has moved on, your brain broadcasts the following message on repeat: “Hurry up and find someone too!No one’s here to prove you wrong, so tell yourself whatever you need to hear and accept that as the answer. The fix: My advice is to regard her with the same level of interest and companionship that you would anyone who shares a similar life experience.You start to either deeply hate or deeply love this new stranger you’ve never met before She’s the worst. You don’t have to like her, but you should respect her, because she’s probably going to deal with the same weird things that you dealt with in your own relationship with your ex.There is definitely value in talking it over with someone close to you, but be considerate of their time and patience.
You can’t stop talking about your ex and it’s really starting to be an issue Your family and friends love you, they do, but they probably don’t want to hear about your ex anymore. You have so many feelings to share and you need someone to share them with.It’ll keep you from creeping and you’ll move on faster if you don’t have the capability to dig deep into her past. You wonder if your ex’s family and friends are comparing you to this new partner, and then you wonder who’s ‘winning’ This is going to be difficult, especially if you were close to your ex’s family and friends.You compare yourself to this new person in every way that matters—and every way that doesn’t Is she prettier than me? You probably haven’t talked to them since the breakup, so you don’t know how they feel about you now that the ex, and you’ll probably never know how they feel about you in comparison to the new girlfriend/boyfriend.Here’s how to deal with the weirdness and get back to the mainland, because you have far more important things to do than worry about who your ex is smooching.You start Internet stalking their new partner WAY too hard It’s funny how fast a simple “in a relationship” status can devolve into creeping on your ex’s new girlfriend’s sister’s wedding photos. For some reason your brain always tricks you into thinking that you’re in competition with the new person in your ex’s life, which is silly since A) she already has the ex and B) you don’t really want the ex anyways.It’s a slippery slope, and no matter how strong your self-control, eventually you’re gonna end up looking at her profile pictures and the profile pictures of everyone she’s known since 2009. The fix: It’s important to remember that your relationship ended for a reason, and that no matter how similar or different you are to the you-replacement, that isn’t going to change the fact that you and your ex weren’t a good match.The fix: My advice is to block them both the second the status appears. So stop comparing and start blocking, because she might be looking at your profile and thinking the same thoughts, and neither of you deserves to feel inferior.You get really angry with your ex all over again This is kinda valid. It isn’t fair, and it never will be, so the best thing to do is belt some power ballads and move on.Calling your ex and yelling at them won’t change anything, it’ll just make you cringe in later years when you’ve met someone new and can’t believe you were hung up on that jerk for so long.Basically, you need to fall back in love with yourself.That’s the only person who matters in this scenario.