The key is really just to have something other than everybody else’s Hi, Hey, Hello without shooting too far and hitting her with Hot Tits or something equally stupid. Do not use compliments that are body related in any sense. After all, you wouldn’t show up to a first date in your pajamas, so try not to look like you’re asleep in your first message. Using the example of Bon Jovi from earlier the title could be anything like “Bon Jovi” or “80s Rock” or “Similar Music Tastes” or even something unrelated to your message but from her profile. If you’re a risk taker you can compliment her hair which goes over amazing about 50% of the time…but has also been known to completely bomb. Eyes and smile (not mouth or lips) are okay and if you really feel compelled you can use words like beautiful or stunning (which I get all the time, and I guess it goes over well, at the very least it doesn’t work against). The truth is, girls are smarter than you’re giving us credit for. And even if we would’ve given you a chance, we likely won’t now since your lazy message tells us you think we aren’t worth it. The same thing goes for saying anything that demonstrates you didn’t do step 1 above.
I don’t actually know “How to Write the Perfect First Message”, and since I’m being honest, the title of this post is mostly for SEO reasons. I know people tend to shy away from “Get up to anything fun this weekend” but if you really can’t think of a single thing else to ask and her profile gives you no clues, go with something safe like that. I know you’re thinking…well I wouldn’t date a girl who’s so judgmental about a couple typos but while you say typos she sees idiot.Okay, I’m just going to admit it, and come out and say it.Most of them falling into the bad and funny categories. Like, when guys send these messages do they honestly think that the women they are sending them to don’t know that these aren’t just copied and pasted messages and sent in masses to lots of different women. They must think they are so fucking clever sending these copy and pasted messages to lots of women a night.It’s actually slightly enraging to read some of these messages that these guys are sending to some of my female friends, only because all I can think is “HOW THIS IS MY COMPETITION!? Especially when I receive screen shots of first messages like the one below : I can’t even. That, somehow they are “beating the system” and not really having to do any work, other than craft a single super generic message and send it out dozens of times.Meaning I have objectives that I try to meet with each message that I send.Objective 1: Prove that you read her profile This is by far the most important objective, I would think female’s are looking for a guy that actually invested the time to read her profile before he decided to send her a message.Well in order for that to happen, you have to ask her questions.Preferably, open ended questions, in regards to her profile.Because if they actually thought that the women they were sending the messages to knew that these were generic messages, they wouldn’t be sending them right?OR do you think these guys just don’t give a fuck and actually want to attract the type of woman that also doesn’t give a fuck that they didn’t actually read your profile? Like next time a guy sends you a super generic message on online dating you respond with nothing else except a link to this post, letting them know, that you know, his message was a piece shit.