Well in order for that to happen, you have to ask her questions.Preferably, open ended questions, in regards to her profile.She will be more likely to respond if you ask her about something mentioned in her profile, as opposed to a random question you want answered. There absolutely is, that one girl that is an egotistical maniac that loves hearing stuff like that from strangers on the internet.But for the most part, to most women on dating websites, it comes off as corny, creepy and repetitive.Most of them falling into the bad and funny categories. Like, when guys send these messages do they honestly think that the women they are sending them to don’t know that these aren’t just copied and pasted messages and sent in masses to lots of different women. They must think they are so fucking clever sending these copy and pasted messages to lots of women a night.It’s actually slightly enraging to read some of these messages that these guys are sending to some of my female friends, only because all I can think is “HOW THIS IS MY COMPETITION!? Especially when I receive screen shots of first messages like the one below : I can’t even. That, somehow they are “beating the system” and not really having to do any work, other than craft a single super generic message and send it out dozens of times. This should be the easiest thing in the world, but I can’t tell you how many people have written to me in French when it clearly states that I don’t speak French (apologetically) on my profile. smart, funny, etc.) BUT BE WARNED NEVER compliment a girl on something you can’t back up from her profile. No chick wants to hear that you love her in a first message. And the same goes for anything mushy, poetic, artsy, creative (unless funny) or that shows you wearing your delusional heart on your sleeve. So settle down, send a calm message, and hope for the best. of yours, do not give her a list of your latest accomplishments, a copy of your CV and the entire menu of your last night’s meal. The truth is, the first message is more about expressing your interest in her.
But seriously, I know this seems obvious and straightforward but I can’t express how important this is…even if by the end, you’re still only messaging because you think she’s a babe. If you’re not reading it for you, you’re still reading it for her. I know people tend to shy away from “Get up to anything fun this weekend” but if you really can’t think of a single thing else to ask and her profile gives you no clues, go with something safe like that. I know you’re thinking…well I wouldn’t date a girl who’s so judgmental about a couple typos but while you say typos she sees idiot.Okay, I’m just going to admit it, and come out and say it.If you are able to convey your humor in writing (LIKE ME), then by all means, go for it, but it’s probably safe to say since she’s never met you, conveying funny in messages may be difficult.Be literate Ironic coming from me, since I don’t proof read or edit my blog. If you’re a risk taker you can compliment her hair which goes over amazing about 50% of the time…but has also been known to completely bomb. Eyes and smile (not mouth or lips) are okay and if you really feel compelled you can use words like beautiful or stunning (which I get all the time, and I guess it goes over well, at the very least it doesn’t work against). The truth is, girls are smarter than you’re giving us credit for. And even if we would’ve given you a chance, we likely won’t now since your lazy message tells us you think we aren’t worth it. The same thing goes for saying anything that demonstrates you didn’t do step 1 above. So now that you know how to make it work, let’s have a look at a few things you’ll want to be weary of. For the love of god don’t say curvy, sexy, hot, tits, ass, hips, legs, or anything in this realm. The first thing you read in the post was a bold face lie.I don’t actually know “How to Write the Perfect First Message”, and since I’m being honest, the title of this post is mostly for SEO reasons.Don’t try and be funny I’ve seen SO MANY messages from my female friends of guys trying to be sarcastic or use humor in their messages, but since their idiot cavemen it comes off as rude, cynical or awkward.Like I see what they were “trying” to say in their messages, but since they don’t know how to write it just came off as rude.